Entitled mom demands money from 29-year-old daughter immediately after she buys her first home, daughter refuses to financially support mom: ‘Now she won't speak to me’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Jul 18, 2025 8:00 PM EDT

It's hard to believe that buying a home is a process that can take years and most likely decades before it is actually a done deal. Society and our economy are way past the days in which you can just… buy a house with cash and be done with it. These days, you can barely buy anything without a loan, which means that the process of becoming a homeowner can take years upon years to be finished.

So really, you need to be cautious with your money long after you put in the down payment, because you still have to pay a mortgage for every single month. That means that if someone you know comes up to you and asks for money, think about it carefully before you give them an answer. Even if it means letting them down, trust us; it is still better than finding yourself unable to pay for the house you are living in.

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  • That is why the daughter in the story below refused to help her mom after she bought her house. Just because she could afford to buy the house doesn't mean she can afford to financially support her mother.

    If only the mom could come to terms with that…

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    "If you can afford a house, you can afford to help me"
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    AITAH for not helping my mom financially even though I just bought a new house?

    I (29F) just bought my first home. It's not huge or fancy, but after years of struggling, saving every penny, skipping vacations, working weekends, I
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    finally did something for me. For the first time in my life, I feel safe. I feel like I can breathe.
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    My mom (56F) found out and immediately asked me for money, help with rent, bills, food. She said since I can "afford a house," I can afford to
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    help her. What she doesn't see is that this house wasn't easy. It came after years of being her emotional and financial safety net. As a kid, I was the grown
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    up. I walked on eggshells around her moods, her choices, her chaos. I've bailed her out more times than I can count.
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    I love her... but I'm tired. So tired of always being the one holding everything up while no one holds me.
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    I told her no, and now she won't speak to me.
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    ChampionshipSad1586 Actually when you buy a home it is the time you do not have disposable income.
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    Quick Banana5600 Congratulations on your new house. What an amazing achievement. You should be proud. Your mom should be proud. Why do people think you have money to spare after buying a house?
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    Ok_Passage_6242 If she's not speaking to you, you need to take that as the win that it is. NTA
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    CarefulAdvice3739 NTA. You're almost 30 years old. Time to live your life. Congrats on the new home.
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    Interesting Wing3292 Yeah you kinda have to leave her behind. She had a much much easier economy to navigate at your age and did not put in the work you did. You cant step into
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    quick sand and drown to be equal to your mother. She's chosen to continue to drown- that s ks. But dont let her drag you down.
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    Big RedKetoGirl It's okay that she won't speak to you. She's showing you who she has always been. Believe her and let her go.
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    jayhendo79 Sadly OP your mum is a grade A grifter. Grifting your children in such an ak ive way is sickening. You need to go no or low contact with grifter mum for a while and set up some very clear boundaries with her now OP.
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    You have just bought a house, every penny is critical, you need to create safety nets, bank any spare cash, create saving accounts to cover a range of potential costs and situations which may arise.
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    Don't discuss your finances with her every again. Keep it simple buying the house has taken years of saving, dedication and commitment and for the next few years money will be extremely tight whilst you start the long mortgage commitment.
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    If your grifter mum decides to blank you for a bit then take full advantage of the peace which will follow. Then if you decide to engage with her beyond that then set clear boundaries to protect your peace going forward.
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    She's highly likely to never change as grifters are gonna grif no matter what, it's all she knows OP. However you can take back full control through consistent boundaries.
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